Tuesday, January 8, 2013

New Year's Lesson: This Shit is Hard

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Pardon my French, but the beginning of 2013 has inspired me to look back at my 2012 and see what lessons I have learned.

Wow. My life has taken so many twists and turns in the past year that it's hard to keep track of them. I parted ways with my first literary agent and tearfully shelved my first novel. I wrote a new (better) novel, and I scored a new (better) agent. I became an aunt, and I felt my life shift so profoundly in response that I made the decision to say goodbye to the relationship, friends and job I loved in Colorado.

What do I have to show for it? Right now, I'm in the foggy, transitional time between here and there. My life in Colorado has drawn to a close, but my life in Florida has barely just begun. I am surrounded by friends and family and people I care about, but I have no idea what lies ahead of me.

Will I score a book deal this year? Will I find the perfect day job?

Most importantly, will I rebuild the pieces of my life into something I can be proud of?

I don't know. I sure hope so.

Which leads me to my post title: this shit is hard. The writing, the living, the loving... The thriving and not just surviving. The blazing of trails, the pursuit of our destinies. Because at the end of the day, we may have NOTHING to show for it.

But, you know what? Maybe we WILL have something to show for it. And we will never, ever know if we are too afraid to take the plunge and surrender ourselves into the hands of fate. Because as the quote says:

"We all go through rough times and disappointments in our lives, but realize that we are all in the midst of creating our own story of triumph through the decisions we make and the actions we take every time life knocks us down. 

It is in attempting to reach our dreams that we develop the necessary skills and mentality to overcome any roadblocks that lie ahead of us. 

Never let a moment of defeat define your life's outcome. 

No matter how many failures you've had, you still have it in you to create the greatest comeback story of your life. 

Until you run out of pages, there is still room to write an epic ending."

17 comments:

alexia said...

Life is definitely hard. And strange. And we fall down. But when we do all those things, we know we are alive. Glorious things happen, too. I totally think you're going to get a book deal this year! You're a kick-ass writer with a kick-ass agent. It's happening :)

Semi-random aside, and I may have asked you this before, but have you seen Under the Tuscan Sun? This is my ultimate 'life can smack us down but we get back up and kick its ass' awesome movie. With wine and hot Italian guys. It's all about breakups and relocating and life's weirdness. One of the best movies ever!

Julie Luek said...

Love this candid and honest post. Life is definitely a series of chapters-- some of them with happier, easier endings, most filled with conflict, hopefully a little joy along the way too. All the best to you in the coming year.

David List said...

I'm glad to see you upbeat and positive despite the bumps of last year. People take for granted that no matter what they're going through, it could be far worse. I don't want to sound like an inspirational poster with a picture of a mountain on it but as long as you believe there's a way, there is.
*Turns and walks into sunset to the tune of Journey - Don't Stop Believing*

Donna Perugini said...

From someone who has been further down life's road..

Whatever you believe you can do...you can do.



Charlie Holmberg said...

All hermit crabs have to be cold and naked for a while after shedding their old shells for bigger and better ones, right? Not that you're a crab, but I thought it was a decent analogy ;)

Mar said...

I look forward to seeing what lies ahead for you. From what I've heard from friends, you are an amazing person. You only deserve the best!

Angelina C. Hansen said...

Yep. Our slightly parallel lives will transition into something amazing. I know it. . .

Tammy Theriault said...

the road may be tough and full of slides and turnes, but in the end as long as you love what you're doing and keep at it, you'll get there...new road ahead, turn at fork in road!!
:D

Kalen O'Donnell said...

I heart you so fucking hard for this post. And like, all other reasons too.

But you're absolutely right. The only difference between a success and a failure is the failures all gave up before they succeeded.

You're a rockstar, babe, and you're going to be A-Ok at the end of it all. This too, we shall survive.

Jaye Robin Brown said...

As they say around here, God willing and the creek don't rise you WILL be attending an awesome retreat in 2013! And that's something. The things that 2012 dealt you, you've already handled with a zillion times more grace than the average person. I'd say that's a life well lived.

Katie Slivensky said...

I feel ya. 2012 was tough. I can relate to a lot of what you went through, not the least of which shelving a novel. But here's to 2013 with new novels and new possibilities. Flying might be exhausting, but if you fly high enough you can see the sunshine even on cloudy days.

Dumba said...

There is what I found years ago on a post card - and I kept it - and found it to be true!

of "E. LORI MILTON"

QUOTE:

"
There are periods of time
when things aren't going right -
times when all the plans you've made
might appear to be out of reach . . .
But as I have come to know, the darkest and most difficult moments
actually signal the end of troubles
and forecast better days ahead.
From our saddest moments
we are able to gain
. strength, confidence and courage
. . and the knowldge that
. . . a brighter day
. . . . is just over the horizon.
"

Crossing my fingers for you.
Might you be soon able to be convinced of the truth of the above said!

Hope and Hugs to you!

LTM said...

Oh! *HUGS* Last year was a strange and challenging year, but in spite of it all, you're poised to do something amazing! I love the quote about while there are still pages...

Here's to an amazing 2013. We're all in this together! *grabs hands* :o) <3

girlparker.com said...

Honey, my money is on your book deal, for sure! Your awesome agent, Hannah, just tweeted that your MS has her on the verge of tears. So Fist Pump, Baby!!! You're gonna be just fine. =)

Melinda Braun said...

Yes, exactly what I think, too. Shit is hard! But you just keep trying because eventually when success comes it will be that much sweeter.

Here's to a great 2013!

Yolanda Renee said...

Again, awesome! I'm so glad I took the time to go back and read you earlier stuff -- you are one inspiring individual, and I'm so glad to have met you!

Someday, I hope to have your courage -- "there is still time to write an epic!"

I'm counting on it!

Altha Fidia Oktora said...


Banned complain !! Complaining only causes life and mind become more severe. Enjoy the rhythm of the problems faced. No matter ga life, not a problem not learn, so enjoy it :)

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